Taking Care of Your Mental Health During the Holidays!
November 18, 2025
by Morayma MaKay
Writer / Blogger & Content Creator
Adulthood Rewired
Biography: Morayma Makay is a fashion model, mother, and writer. She has
dedicated the last 20 years to working in the fashion and health fields as
both a researcher and content creator.
“Be good to yourself.”
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The holidays are often presented as a time of joy, togetherness, and cheer…perfect scenes from the Hallmark Channel, but for many people, that picture doesn’t tell the whole story. Between packed schedules, family expectations, financial stress, difficult family dynamics, and memories of those who aren’t with us anymore, the season can bring up a lot of complicated emotions. So, while the world sparkles with lights and celebration, it’s not uncommon to find yourself feeling anxious, lonely, or overwhelmed.
If this sounds familiar, know that you’re not alone, and it’s okay to admit that the holidays don’t always feel magical. Thankfully, a little awareness and some simple self-care can create a season that feels calmer, more intentional, and more supportive of you and your mental health.
Give Yourself Permission to Feel
The first step toward emotional well-being during the holidays is giving yourself permission to feel whatever comes up without judgement. Maybe you’re missing someone, struggling with family dynamics, or just feeling burnt out. Trying to suppress those emotions often makes them louder, so instead of suppression, acknowledge those feelings…do things like journal, speak to a trusted friend, or allow yourself some time for self-care. All of these things will help you process negative emotions surrounding the holidays a little better, and you may end up finding out that you’re not the only one who feels like you do.
Protect Your Peace
It’s easy to get swept up in the holiday rush by saying yes to every gathering, tradition, or request, but it’s so important to protect your time, energy, and emotional space. These things are limited resources, and protecting them isn’t selfish…it’s self-care! Remember, it is ok to say no if you are feeling spread thin or overwhelmed with holiday plans. If certain situations or people drain you, it’s perfectly acceptable to set limits with them as well. Maybe that means leaving an event early, skipping one altogether, or planning quiet time before and after a busy day to recharge. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for doing what supports your well-being. When you set boundaries kindly but firmly, you make space for more peace and presence in the moments that truly matter.
Stay Grounded in Routine
During the holidays, it’s easy to let go of the routines that usually help you feel balanced, like exercise, sleep, and nutritious meals. While it’s perfectly fine to indulge and go with the flow sometimes, keeping a few of your regular wellness habits can help you feel like you’re a little more in control of things. Try to get some movement each day, even if it’s a brisk walk outside or gentle stretching in front of the TVt. Stick to a sleep schedule when you can, and nourish your body with whole foods that support your energy levels, immune system, and mood. Little things like staying hydrated or limiting alcohol and sugar can also make a noticeable difference in how you feel emotionally.
Focus on Meaning, Not Perfection
The pressure to make everything “perfect” during the holidays can also be exhausting. From decorations to gifts to family traditions, it’s far too easy to fall into comparison or self-criticism, but the truth is, the holidays don’t have to look like a movie scene to be meaningful. Try shifting your focus to what genuinely matters to you, like connection, kindness, rest, creativity, or simply taking the time to slow down. Simplify your commitments and find joy in smaller, quieter moments like lighting candles in your home, listening to your favorite music, baking something comforting, or volunteering for a cause you care about.
Reach Out for Support
If the holidays consistently feel heavy, don’t hesitate to reach out for support. Talking with a counselor, joining a support group, church group, or confiding in someone you trust can make a big difference in helping you realize that you don’t have to navigate difficult feelings alone. Even small connections like a friendly chat, a walk with a neighbor, a quick text to a loved one can remind you that you’re part of something bigger. Human connection, in any form, is one of the most powerful antidotes to the holiday blues.
So, while the holidays can stir up a lot of deep feelings like nostalgia, joy, grief, gratitude, and everything in between… you have the power to choose how you move through them. By protecting your peace, honoring your emotions, and focusing on what truly nourishes you, you can create a version of the season that feels right for you. So this year, give yourself the same kindness and care you offer everyone else. Make time for rest, let go of unrealistic expectations, and remember that joy doesn’t have to look perfect!.
